Erotica vs. Porn by Ashlynn Monroe
I’ve seen other blogs on this topic in the past but I want to put in my two cents (for what it’s worth). Erotica and porn are two very different things. I consider any book that doesn’t end with a happily-for-now, or happily-ever-after a book and is written solely for sex sake to be pornographic. A story where the characters experience love or just feel affection for each other isn’t porn. I’m not afraid to say, yes, I have seen porn. It’s not something I’d want to watch or read often, but I have seen it and it’s so different from reading erotica the two don’t compare properly. Not everyone is comfortable with sex—shocking, I know. Sex isn’t instantly porn.
Personally, I think sex is wonderful. I’m lucky that way; not everyone’s experience is always positive. I was never told sex is shameful or dirty. I grew up in a household where sex wasn’t discussed, but my grandmother gave me adult romance novels early and I’ve been an avid fan ever since. While the other kids were reading The Babysitters Club and Nancy Drew books, I was reading Harlequins. This is probably the reason I’m not embarrassed to write about sex. I feel that literature is an extension of society and sex is a huge part of our culture. People get naked and do things without clothing together, they’ve been doing it since day one and they’ll probably be doing it until doomsday. Nothing will replace it, and if done right, nothing is better.
Not everyone believes that romance and erotica deserve credibility. Those people suck, and I completely disagree. I’ve read erotica so beautifully written it’s filled my heart as fully as any poetry, and I’ve written erotica that made me shudder and put the book down. Sex is like anything else, some people can describe it well and some can’t. If the small nesciences of emotion exist in the act of sex, it becomes communication, and the writers who know how to show their readers those subtle connections are brilliant. I’m a fan of several erotic only authors who have this gift and their talent always humbles me when I read them. However, some people write sex like it’s a how-to manual, and it always leaves me feeling a bit jaded and dirty after I read something so amazing condensed down to robotic actions and soulless syllables.
Here’s my personal opinion. A book written to excite a reader sexually with no thought to the characters needs or the reader’s desire for an acceptable resolution is porn. A book written to show the characters expressing what matters to them in a beautiful honest way is erotica. You can use the real words, and you can describe it in detail, but you can’t leave out the heart. If you are thinking of writing your first erotic story, don’t forget that organ while your characters use all the others.
Ashlynn Monroe has been writing since she was a teenager for her own pleasure, but in her thirties, she decided it was time to share her stories. She enjoys writing about anything and everything paranormal or fantasy related. When she’s not lovingly raising her young family, she’s dreaming up her next tale of romance.
Find out more about Ashlynn on her website: http://www.ashlynnmonroe.com