The Essence of Erotic Romance
There are so many misconceptions about erotic romance, and I think because it’s a genre that grew up so quickly. I’ve had people ask me if I enjoy writing porn (don’t know, don’t write it). Or if my family knows what kind of books I write (absolutely-my kids are my best press agents). I’ve even had people ask me if I’ve done everything I’ve written about. Well. If I did I wouldn’t have any time to write and I’d probably be dead!
Remember when love scenes in movies reached a certain point and then it was “fade to black?” When all married couples slept in twin beds with pajamas that would conceal Santa Claus. Well erotic romance pushes aside the black curtain and gets rid of the twin bed. And there are never any pajamas! Erotic romance is taking the quality of a love scene to the next level. Enhancing it. Weaving a fantasy that readers can wrap around themselves.
When I first began writing romance fiction I took a workshop at which a published author told me to always think of the five senses when I wrote erotic scenes. I always keep that in mind. What did the hero or heroine see? Taste? Feel? Smell? Hear? How did it enhance what was happening for them? How did it arouse them so that the scene of sexual pleasure was a naturally unfolding thing?
Because that’s what it is. Even when writing about concepts such as ménage or BDSM, it’s always about the people involved and the five senses. Sex is pleasurable and I make it pleasurable for my characters. I’ve never been one for just sticking sex scenes in at certain points in a story. “Oh, wait. I’m, one third of the way into this and they haven ‘t done it yet.” It has to be a natural progression of events.
Women like to be wooed and seduced and that especially holds true for the heroines of erotic romance fiction. I can’t imagine anything more of a turnoff than a woman walking into a room with a strange man and he simply says, “Hey, Whateveryournameis, take off your clothes.”
Now, that doesn’t mean that my characters don’t play these kinds of games in some of my stories. But the setup is always there and the reader is the voyeur. I’ve even opened a book with an erotic scene but only because it was an obvious part of the story, such as the opening dream sequence in my upcoming Jungle Inferno. Just because the sex is more graphic in erotic romances doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be appropriate and in good taste.
Probably the biggest difference between sensual romance and erotic romance is the detail in the love scenes and the nature of the language. For some people this is sometimes more than they want to read. Well and good. But as people have become more open about discussing sex their demands in the books they read have become greater.
Another question I get is about BDSM–why do I write about it? I think a lot of people really misunderstand it. A Dom/submissive relationship is built on the greatest amount of trust, on both sides. “Safe, sane and consensual” are the watchwords and are more a part of the relationship than I think what is referred to as “vanilla”. I’m totally amazed at the amount of trust these people place in each other, whether it’s simply for a session at a private club or in an ongoing relationship. There are people “in the life” who have very kindly opened themselves up to me and answered questions and as I talked to them I realized how deep the relationships really are. I am proud to say that two of my books, Rodeo Heat and Trouble in Cowboy Boots received the CAPA Award for Best BDSM Book of the Year from The Romance Studio.
I think the more I write erotic romance, the more I learn to understand what makes people tick and how relationships develop. The underlying foundation of it all is always the emotion, and if you can understand tat, then writing the scenes flows easily.
I didn’t start out writing erotic romances. It was actually my late very beloved husband who urged me to dip my toe in the waters. It’s been a wonderful and rewarding journey ever since then. I hope some of you will join me as I continue along its path.
Twenty years ago Dallas Creed and Charley Roper were lovers with their entire future ahead of them. Until they split. Badly. Now he’s a country rock icon who made it to the top, hit bottom but is back at the top of his game. And Charley’s the private security specialist hired to protect him from an unknown killer in stalking mode. Caught up in the bitter wash of memories they begin a roller coaster ride that is suspenseful, emotional and erotic. Is their love strong enough to erase the past and bring them back together before the killer strikes again?
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