Honesty in Erotica by Sidney Bristol
Thanks so much for having me here today!
I was really stumped when I sat down to write up this blog post, and was asking myself out loud what I should do. The most brilliant thing I could think of at the moment was talking about my current reality TV obsession, and let’s face it, I have bad taste in TV! So I had a friend ask a question:
What do you like the most about writing erotic romance?
I’m going to come clean here. There are a lot of times I’m not all that honest. No, I’m not a chronic liar, but sometimes it’s easier to hide pieces of who you are and what you want. It might make life easier, it might save you from some uncomfortable situations, but it keeps people from knowing everything about you. For example, I love trashy reality TV about crazy, rich people. It’s a train wreck like no other. Another honest admission? Sometimes, when I’m kissing a guy, I get bored. I don’t always admit either fact.
As a writer, I don’t have to couch what my characters are thinking and wanting in pretty words. From personal desires to carnal, I can be brutally honest, even a little vulgar with what’s going through their heads. Characters aren’t believable without their own hang-up’s, but unlike you or I, their ending is written with a smile.
There’s a vulnerable quality to the level of honesty the characters have with one another. Whether you’re reading a contemporary romance where things stay vanilla, or a space thriller where the hero and heroine engage in a little BDSM play, in order for the characters to get what they want, there has to be some honesty. Think about some of your favorite, really hot scenes. Did one character ever tell the other what they wanted the other to do? Did they admit to a fantasy? Or maybe a deep, dark desire?
I don’t know about you, but I have hang ups. Things I’m self conscious about, stuff that makes me uncomfortable or nervous. Writing erotic romance, you get to explore characters insecurities, and how they’re accepted by an equally flawed partner. That’s why I enjoy reading and writing erotic romance. The exploration of the desires, the honesty between partners and the guarantee of a happy ending.
My upcoming book, Personal Adventures, features two best buds, who haven’t been exactly honest with each other. This book started from a conversation with my old college roommate. The gist of it was that my roommate, as a Native America woman, didn’t feel like she was represented in the media. While I started out wanting to tackle cultural issues, the story grew into an exploration of how two people can be best friends, and still not know each other. They have to learn how to open up to one another, and be honest, not just about sex but other things in their lives.
So, in a very long form, that’s my answer to the question. When it comes to reading erotica and erotic stories, I enjoy the honesty of it. What do you enjoy?
It can never be said that Sidney Bristol has had a ‘normal’ life. She is a recovering roller derby queen, former missionary, and tattoo addict. She grew up in a motor-home on the US highways (with an occasional jaunt into Canada and Mexico), traveling the rodeo circuit with her parents. Sidney has lived abroad in both Russia and Thailand, working with children and teenagers. She now lives in Texas where she splits her time between a job she loves, writing, reading and belly dancing.