Five Ways to Add Spice to the Bedroom by Suzanne Rock
Hi everyone! Thanks for having me here today. I thought I’d take this opportunity to talk about the relationship slump. A lot of us have been there, I’m sure. You’ve been with your partner for a while now, and things have gotten pretty comfortable. While you love him (or her), things have gotten rather routine, and it’s hard to break out of that ho-hum rut and add a little excitement to your relationship – more specifically, the bedroom. Well, I thought that I’d share with you a few little tips on how to add some spice to your love life and hopefully add back that spark that happened when you first met. 😉
1) Go to a “toy store” together
Going to the sex toy store might be intimidating by yourself, but it will be less-so with your partner. The drive over to the store will help build anticipation, picking out a toy to try will bring you closer, and the long drive home, will only add to the sexual tension and excitement. All of that foreplay will help create some explosive sex – and the toy will help break the two of you outside the boring routine.
2) Talk it up
Tell him what you want him to do to you, or tell him what you are going to do to him. Broadcasting your needs and actions is a type of foreplay that will help build the sexual tension and generate some explosive sex.
Another option is giving compliments. Stand in front of a mirror with your mate and slowly undress him. As you reveal each body part, tell him what you like about it and be sure to give it special attention. Everyone likes receiving compliments and erotic compliments will help build his confidence and lead to great sex.
3) Slip into something sexy
It’s tough to feel like having sex when you’re wearing your bathrobe and bunny slippers. Slip into a nice piece of lingerie or sexy dress and meet him at the door. Men are very visual and he’ll appreciate the effort. The sexy outfit will give you confidence and help put you in the mood for great sex.
Another option is to try role playing. Picking out different costumes and role playing different scenarios could also lead to mixing things up in the bedroom.
4) Surprise him (and yourself)
Flash your husband as he walks in the front door. Send him erotic notes in his lunches, text or email what you would like to do to him when he gets home or buy him a small gift and send it to work. Little surprises catch him off guard and help to create spontaneity, which can then be moved to the bedroom.
5) Random displays of affection
No doubt about it, when you hold hands, give hugs and do other small displays of affection, you create and maintain a certain level of intimacy. Couples who feel close to each other are more likely to continue to show that affection in the bedroom.
There you have it – five suggestions to help put the spark back in your relationship and back to great sex. This isn’t an exhaustive list, however. I’m sure there are other ideas out there. Do you have any suggestions to add? Tell me about it in the comments section. In the meantime, here’s a little bit of information about my newest release.
Darien let his guard down once, and Arianne stole the demon stone from under his nose. Now he has to get it back, no matter what the cost. It doesn’t matter that the feisty redhead calms the voices in his head, or that her body tempts him beyond reason. Only the stone will ensure his survival. He decides to appeal to her feminine side and use gentle seduction to get it back. As he begins, something inside him changes, and the voices in his head compel him to use pain to heighten desire.
As Darien’s touch turns dark, Arianne’s lust escalates, and a connection forms between them. Yet despite her need, she can’t let the sexy FBI agent have what he wants. If placed in the wrong hands, the stone would release an unholy force intent on destroying everything she loves—including him.
After over a decade in the scientific world, Suzanne needed a creative outlet. She tried scrap booking, cooking, crocheting, painting, and piano, none of which held her interest for very long. Then one of her friends suggested writing. Thrilled with the idea of creating her own worlds, she opened up her lap top and never looked back.
When Suzanne’s not writing, she can be found playing with her two daughters, testing her husband’s latest kitchen creations, or curled up with her favorite romance novel in her central Massachusetts home.