BDSM for Beginners: Do Not Try This at Home
Belphagor, the hero of Prince of Tricks, is a dominant demon. I will come right out and tell you that many of the sexy scenes in the book—both vanilla and kink—are exaggerated. You’re meant to suspend your disbelief—and hang on for a wild ride. I was going for somewhat over-the-top, because my demons are nothing if not over-the-top. That’s not to say, however, that there isn’t some realism to my erotica. Few things irritate me more in erotic fiction than BDSM absurdity.
Dominants need to be trained and practiced in their art. Delivering harsh punishment or applying bondage and restriction to a willing submissive without causing injury is both an art and a science. Anal sex and fisting take skill and finesse—and lots of lube. I cut some corners in my book for erotic effect, but the acts fall within the realm of possibility—if not always probability.
But above all, a dominant should not be abusive and a submissive should not be a victimized doormat. Both parties in the relationship should not only be fully consenting, but should be having a really damned good time. And communication is essential. If you’re writing a dominant who never shares anything with the submissive, who’s secretive and controlling, and who thinks he or she always knows what’s best for the submissive, you’re writing an abusive asshole with a god complex, not a dom. There’s certainly a place for that kind of sexual fantasy (I’ll admit I read and enjoyed some of the Gor books when I was younger), but in my opinion, erotic romance isn’t that place.
That doesn’t mean I want perfect characters. Belphagor doesn’t always communicate when he should, and it gets him into to trouble. Trust is one of the biggest issues he has, and it goes both ways.
Another peeve I have about BDSM tops in erotica is that they are so often billionaires or executives—men with conventional power oozing out of their pores—while the bottoms are secretaries or others in subservient positions, people whose lives are out of control and mostly powerless. I write from real-world experience, and this dynamic simply doesn’t make sense. No, art doesn’t have to imitate life, and there are plenty of people who enjoy reading that dynamic—I’m just not one of them.
I prefer more complexity. Belphagor is shorter-than-average, strong, but small and wiry, while Vasily, the submissive in my series, is a six-foot-four, muscle-bound firespirit demon with a nearly subsonic growl. He breathes fire and has a volatile temper. He likes to fight back and swear, and has to be physically subdued.
Luckily, Belphagor is up to the challenge. Having fought his way to the top of the Russian vory v zakone in his years in prison, he’s quite adept at bringing down a larger man. The tattoos covering his skin are a warning not to judge him by his size or his relatively calm demeanor. He doesn’t have much power in the conventional sense—he’s a petty thief and a gambler and belongs to the peasant class in a celestial world divided into angelic nobility and demonic commoners—but he’s a consummate con man who wields mental influence like he wields a whip.
Most of all, though, I wanted these books to be fun, to tell a love story wrapped in Imperial Russian court intrigue with a paranormal underbelly, and full of hot man-on-man power play action and sex. And if things get a little out of hand on occasion? Well, it’s not a how-to. 😉
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Excerpt:
Belphagor pushed him onto his back and straddled him, his own unfulfilled erection poised between them like an exclamation point. “I told you, you’re my boy. Mine.” There was an implication in the words that Vasily couldn’t miss. The firespirit had been earning his bed and his supper on the streets of Raqia since the word “boy” had been applied to him more literally, likely from an even earlier age than had Belphagor himself. When Vasily had come to him after the night Belphagor caught him trying to cut his purse, he’d attempted to continue with his street business as usual until Belphagor forbade him selling himself to angels or to rough trade demons. He wouldn’t stop Vasily bartering his favors if that was what he chose to do, but he would see to it he was treated as the valuable commodity he was if he insisted on continuing in the trade.
This hadn’t sat well with a firespirit just coming into his prime. Angels in particular desired him, finding his rough looks and the wild coloring of his tangled hair the epitome of what they pictured as demonic. Mostly students out on their own for the first time with purses of crystal facets to burn, they wanted the quintessential Raqia experience. They crossed Elysium’s River Acheron to slum in Heaven’s Demon District, and in their eyes, Vasily was as low-rent as they could get. Which was all the more reason they were to keep their filthy angelic paws off Belphagor’s boy.
A red glimmer of flame threatened in the black depths of Vasily’s pupils, giving the hazel irises an amber cast. This evidence of his defiant anger, despite the fact that Belphagor had finally given him what he wanted—or broken down and caved to his charms, more like—was a Pavlovian bell to Belphagor’s hunger for him. It had nearly driven him mad to keep Vasily at arm’s length this long, telling himself he didn’t deserve him, that Vasily couldn’t possibly want him—the Vasily in his head still the same skinny cutpurse youth he’d first encountered, though his “boy” had long been nothing of the sort. Even now, his heart fluttered like a panicked bird caged in his chest, waiting for something terrible to happen, for Vasily to realize Belphagor wasn’t as young as he appeared and to ridicule the helpless state to which he’d reduced him—hopelessly enamored of another demon after the equivalent of a human lifetime of solitude.
For Belphagor, solitude had been his strength. He hadn’t needed anyone since the earliest betrayals of youthful love. But Vasily had brought him to his knees. Never mind that it was Vasily on his knees that had done it to him.
“What’s got your fire up, malchik?” He kissed the spot he’d cleaned with his tongue beneath Vasily’s Adam’s apple. “I thought you wanted to be mine.”
“I hate it when you treat me like a child.”
Belphagor raised an eyebrow. “I’m fairly certain I treated you as rather the opposite last night. Was it not satisfactory?”
The natural pink of Vasily’s cheeks reddened more obviously. “Of course it was. I mean, it was more than satisfactory. Way more. Dammit, Beli.” He crooked his arm over his eyes as if looking up into Belphagor’s embarrassed him during such talk. He was utterly charming. As was the little endearment that had just slipped out, though Belphagor might have decked another demon for it.
He kissed Vasily’s sullen mouth. “It was far more than satisfactory for me.” The soft words were almost a whisper. “You’ve absolutely spoiled me for anyone else.”
“Good.” The word was delivered with a sudden sharpness. So that was what was bothering him. It sparked a bit of defiance of his own. He wasn’t used to having anyone put restraints on him. That was Belphagor’s specialty.
“Don’t seek to possess me, malchik. I’m an airspirit.”
Vasily moved his arm away from his eyes, and they were glowing with furious heat. “So that’s how it is. You own me, you tell me what I can and can’t do, but you can do as you like.” The roiling anger in the firespirit eyes heated Belphagor like combustion from the inside out. The thought of putting Vasily over his knee once more made him almost painfully hard. Without equivocation, he was a slave to this brutally beautiful young demon.
“Yes, Vasya. That’s how it is.”
The violent rebuff wasn’t unexpected, but Belphagor, nonetheless, had failed to brace for it, too absorbed in the feel of the body beneath him and the thoughts of what he wished to do with it. He found himself forcefully ejected from the cot and sprawled on the cold wooden floor, with Vasily standing over him, magnificent in his literally naked anger.
“Then maybe you should just skip the foreplay and go fuck yourself!” Vasily delivered the Germanic hardness of the lovely verb “fuck” as if he were demonstrating it. As Vasily jerked his jeans onto his legs like he was punishing the fabric, Belphagor watched with unabashed admiration of the musculature being regretfully hidden away. Hooray at least for his lazy laundering habits that had resulted in this morning’s “commando” mode.
He picked himself up, along with the black T-shirt on the floor beside him, which he handed to Vasily as if he couldn’t care less whether the demon walked out on him. Vasily snatched it from his grip and yanked it on over the tangled red locks he’d been cultivating. The shirt had once been Belphagor’s. It had stretched to its limits and was now much too small on the firespirit frame. Belphagor wished there were cameras in Heaven. He could just about die from gazing at the image Vasily struck.
Vasily was waiting for him to apologize or take back what he’d said, to placate him into staying. He had no intention of doing so. Vasily was his. It was an indisputable fact. He’d be back.
The younger demon turned and yanked open the rickety door in danger of coming right off the hinges at his grip, cast one last furious, fiery glare in Belphagor’s direction, and left him with a fierce slam. The bottom hinge bent.
Belphagor glanced down at his relentless and unameliorated state of arousal with a sigh of resignation. His masochistic streak might be at an all-time high.
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When desire rises, angels will fall. One, by one, by one…
Over the past century, Belphagor has made a name for himself in Heaven’s Demon District as a cardsharp, thief, and charming rogue.
Though the airspirit is content with his own company, he enjoys applying the sweet sting of discipline to a willing backside. Angel, demon, even the occasional human. He’s not particular. Until a hotheaded young firespirit steals his purse—and his heart. Now he’s not sure who owns whom.
A former rent boy and cutpurse from the streets of Raqia, Vasily has never felt safer than in the arms—and at the feet—of the Prince of Tricks. He’s just not sure if Belphagor returns those feelings. There’s only one way to find out, but using a handsome, angelic duke to stir Belphagor’s jealousy backfires on them both.
When the duke frames Vasily for an attempted assassination as part of a revolutionary conspiracy, Belphagor will do whatever it takes to clear his boy’s name and expose the real traitor. Because for the first time in his life, the Prince of Tricks has something to lose.
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About the Author:
Jane Kindred is the author of The House of Arkhangel’sk trilogy, the Demons of Elysium series, and The Devil’s Garden. Born in Billings, Montana, she spent her formative years ruining her eyes reading romance novels in the Tucson sun and watching Star Trek marathons in the dark. She now writes to the sound of San Francisco foghorns while two cats slowly but surely edge her off the side of the bed.
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Grace says
Great post! I agree that there’s a lot of absurdity in BDSM erotica, and it bothers me when the “dom” is an abusive asshole (*ahem* Christian Grey, but that’s one of the smaller things that bothered me in 50 Shades). Strangely, I still enjoy the Gor books, but they aren’t supposed to portray real BDSM, and a lot of the scenes are a bit laughable (the hair gag thing comes to mind… as someone who’s had long hair for most of my life, I can guarantee that that’s not how it works) and are more about an aesthetic than actual relationships.
I’m looking forward to reading “Prince of Tricks.” The dynamic between Belphagor and Vasily was one of my favorite parts of the Arkhangel’sk trilogy, and getting to know the two of them even better sounds like a delightful indulgence. 🙂